I am currently dating a man who has two children. I don’t have any children, but I love them, and I don’t mind the time that he spends with his children. We are planning to get married very soon. The problem is one of the children’s mother. She is constantly putting my fiancee down, calling him names, and telling him that he is a bad father. He’s constantly on the road, and the money that he makes goes to his children. He is a great person to be with, and I love him very much. However, any interaction with her, and it seems that he turns into a different person. He seems withdrawn, sad, and discouraged. We are in the process of telling people about our upcoming marriage. He doesn’t want to tell the child’s mother, because it might put her in a bad mood, and he’s “tired of that.” He feels that it could affect the relationship that he has with his child. I am torn because I want him to have a good relationship with both of his children, and their mothers, but I don’t want her to control his life and emotions like she does. I don’t know what to do or say to him about this. How should I (being the other woman) respond? What should I do?