My boyfriend and I broke up. Up until the last second of our relationship he insisted that he still loves me. Yet the very next day he was back online dating. And no, I wasn’t on there looking for anyone else, that’s not what happened. In fact, I am still very much in love with him. And no, he wasn’t on there before we broke up either. Those are the facts. I don’t understand why someone would insist they love you and say that they want things to work out but don’t think they can, then go looking for someone else the next day. That would be mean they don’t love you, right? Then why would they insist they do? And if they do, how could they be looking for someone else so soon? Can someone help me make any sense of this?
…Also, because he is looking, I stupidly decided maybe I should, too. So I now have an online dating profile again, too. I am devastated and heartbroken and don’t feel ready for this at all as I still love him and it wouldn’t be fair to anyone else either. I feel that this is going to take me a long time to get over. Is it a good idea to have one anyway? Should I just keep trying despite the circumstances and how I feel? Is this a good method to recover from a loss like this for some people or something? And if you were him and saw that I had one now too how would you feel?

Please help me understand why someone would go about things this way. I’m at a loss. Thank you.

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